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Spousal Support and Attorney Fees Paid to Abuser

October 28, 2011

Money 2.jpgIn a recent spousal support and attorney fees case out of California, a wife was ordered to pay spousal support to her estranged husband after he was convicted to domestic violence against her. The wife had financially supported her husband for years while he was both unemployed and abusive toward her. Finally, she secretly recorded an incident of domestic violence and took him to Court. After a jury trial during which the recording was played, the Husband was convicted of forced oral copulation.

When the divorce became finalized, the husband requested spousal support. The family court judge ordered that the wife pay to the husband $1,000.00 per month in spousal support and awarded the husband $47,000 in attorney fees. In California, as in North Carolina, judges have significant discretion when weighing marital misconduct in the context of an alimony award. Under North Carolina law, the only absolute bar to an award of alimony is the commission of illicit sexual behavior by the receiving spouse. Even adultery is not an absolute bar to an award of post separation support. Rather, it is one of many factors the family court may consider in determining the award of post separation support.

The wife earns in excess of $100,000 a year as a financial analyst and had been supporting her husband, a former car salesman, since the couple had their first child several years earlier. This was considered, as it would have been considered under North Carolina alimony law, by the Court in making its determination. The judge would have ordered the wife to pay $3,000 per month in alimony, but discounted the amount to $1,000 because of the sexual assault committed by the husband.

The Husband did receive an active jail sentence for the forced oral copulation. On this basis, the wife argued that the husband would not actually have any living expenses while he was in jail. Interestingly, the family court judge agreed with her. When the husband is released from jail in a few years, he will have the right to ask for spousal support again. The husband would be entitled to spousal support under California law.

This case is illustrative of a very interesting point. It is an excellent illustration of how much discretion family court judges have in most matters. As we have discussed here previously (Alimony Decision by North Carolina Court of Appeals) family court judges have wide discretion in spousal support cases. Similarly, family court judges have wide discretion in child custody matters. While it is difficult to imagine a family court judge determining, in their discretion, that the perpetrator of a violent felony would be entitled to alimony, there is nothing under California law which would serve as an absolute bar to the spousal support award. This wide discretion is one of the reasons why many family law matters are better off resolved by the parties in settlement. By resolving disputes by agreement, the parties maintain a level of control over the outcome of their divorce case. If a case goes on to trial, the parties take significant risk in allowing a third party, a family court judge, to resolve their divorce matters for them. Indeed, what may strike one judge as being appropriate in their discretion could vary widely from what might strike another judge as being appropriate under the very same circumstances. In short, because major decisions are often subject to determination under a very subjective standard, family law cases are often very unpredictable.

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Divorce Financial Tips

May 19, 2011

stack-of-money.jpgCharlotte Divorce Lawyer Blog will review five tips from a recent article on Yahoo.com entitled Getting a Divorce? 5 Ways to Ensure It's Not a Financial Disaster. While mostly common sense, these tips can provide a good start for a discussion with your spouse and your lawyer about how to avoid the financial ruin which can result from a divorce.

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Sign #7 that Your Honey May Cheat - They Brag About Being Able to Attract Others

May 12, 2011

According to Yahoo.com and Match.com, the seventh sign that your signficant other may cheat is if they routinely brag about their ability to attract others. Cheaters tend to be insecure and make up for it by bragging about their ability to attract others. This makes them feel better about themselves. A person like this is going to need a lot of coddling and ego-stroking, something most people aren't real thrilled about doing.

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Sign #6 that Your Honey May Cheat - They Lie About Little Things

May 10, 2011

According to Yahoo.com and Match.com, the sixth sign that your significant other may cheat is if they are the type to lie about little things. If you are dating someone who cannot tell the truth, even about little things, watch out. These types of character traits can run deep. If the person is willing to lie about little things, chances are good that they are willing to lie about important things too.

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Sign #5 That Your Honey May Cheat - They Have Never Been Alone

May 5, 2011

According to Yahoo.com and Match.com, the fifth sign that your significant other may cheat is if they are the type who is always with someone. If they are the type who is never without a mate, this should be a red flag. They typically go from one relationship to another rather than ever being alone for any appreciable period of time. These types do not bother with evaluating why the relationship did not work out. Rather, they focus on filling the void with another significant other as soon as possible. Filling a void is not likely to form the basis of a long lasting relationship.

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Sign #4 Your Honey May Cheat - They Admit to Cheating Before

May 3, 2011

According to Match.com and Yahoo.com, the fourth sign that your significant other may cheat is if they admit to having cheated on previous exes but have a rationalization for it. If they have done it before and have found a way to rationalize it, watch out! If they do this, there is a good chance they may do it again. If they do it to you, maybe they will be rationalizing it to their next significant other. This nasty cycle has to end somewhere.

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Sign #3 Your Honey May Cheat - They Say they Want "No Strings Attached"

April 28, 2011

According to Match.com and Yahoo.com, the third sign that your significant othe rmay cheat is if they want a "no strings attached" relationship. If they say this, you should beware. This one should be a no-brainer, but don't fall into the "I can change them" trap. Just take them at their word and let them go "play the field." Any words like this should be considered a red flag. Never push a person to be in a committed relationship that they do not want to be in. Just accept it for what it is and move on.

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Sign #2 Your Honey May Cheat - They are Emotionally Absent

April 26, 2011

According to Match.com and Yahoo.com, the second sign that your significant other may cheat is if they are emotionally absent. If you constantly feel like you have to pry the truth from your partner, this should be a warning sign. A person like this may find it easy to tell you what you want to hear, but find it difficult to deliver on their promises to spend more time together when push comes to shove. The same thing may go for promises to spend more time together, they may promise it and never deliver.

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Sign #1 Your Honey May Cheat - They Keep You a Secret

April 21, 2011

According to the article by Match.com and Yahoo.com, the first sign that your significant other may cheat on you is if they keep you a secret from their family and friends. If you feel like you are only meeting some of your significant other's friend and family, or that they are compartmentalizing you, this may be an indicator of infidelity. Maybe they are looking for someone else or have already found someone else.

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Charlotte Divorce Lawyer Blog Explores 7 Signs Your Honey May Cheat

April 19, 2011

According to an article by Match.com and Yahoo.com, there are seven signs your honey may cheat on you. For many kinds of divorce cases, particularly those involving spousal support, adultery can be a game changer. So, we think it is worthwhile to consider signs which a spouse might look for which suggest infidelity. These may seem like commons sense indictors of cheating. But, pay attention and it could pay dividends.

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Modification of Alimony Issue on Remand from N.C. Supreme Court

January 11, 2011

The North Carolina Supreme Court remanded the case of Underwood vs. Underwood to the North Carolina Court of Appeals for further consideration in light of the ruling in Walters vs. Walters. The North Carolina Court of Appeals decided that its first decision stands and that the case is reversed and remanded to the trial court. In the first opinion, the N.C. Court of Appeals ruled that hte trial court did not have the ability to make a modification of alimony payments where the payments were made pursuant to a Consent order and when the alimony payments are reciprocal consideration for equitable distribution provisions.

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Alimony Decision by North Carolina Court of Appeals

January 7, 2011

In the case of Webb v. Webb the trial court awarded Wife $5,000.00 per month in permanent alimony and partial attorney fees. Husband appealed to the North Carolina Court of Appeals and argued that the Court did not make sufficient findings of fact to support an award of permanent alimony and that the Court made an error in calculating his income.

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Alimony and Child Support Payments in the Public Eye

October 21, 2010

Although their divorce is finalized, the aftermath of the divorce proceedings still continues in the North Carolina Court of Appeals for NASCAR Chair Brian France and his ex-wife, Megan. Brian's lawyers are making an unusual request - that the proceedings should be closed to the public and the couple's divorce agreement should be kept sealed.

Court documents filed before the hearing reveal that the divorce agreement gives Megan France at least $40,000 per month in child care reimbursement expenses (including "governess payments") and alimony, as well as a $9 million distributive award. Also according to these documents, Brian France has recently refused to make some of the required payments. Megan France also accuses her ex-husband of harassing her by hiring private investigators to follow her, and violating their agreement concerning the care of their children.

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Elizabeth Edwards is Speaking Out On Her Divorce

July 13, 2010

In an interview with Matt Lauer of NBC's Today Show this week, Elizabeth Edwards spoke out about her finalized divorce from former U.S. senator and presidential candidate John Edwards. The Edwardses, of Chapel Hill, North Carolina began divorce proceedings shortly after John Edwards admitted to fathering a child with Rielle Hunter, a campaign aide with whom he had a long-term relationship. Hunter now lives in Charlotte with their two-year-old daughter.

Calling her decision to leave her husband "terrifying," Elizabeth notes that she attempted to salvage the marriage after learning of the affair, but eventually stopped trying when she realized that the affair was more involved than she originally thought. However, she reported that she and John remain in close contact for the sake of their three children. Elizabeth's first book, "Resilience," documenting her struggle with her husband's infidelity, was released in paperback form this week.

Social Networking and Divorce in Charlotte, North Carolina

March 7, 2010

The recent rise in popularity of social networking websites has redefined the definition of privacy for many users. Unfortunately, as recently reported by Time Magazine in two different articles (Facebook and Divorce: Airing the Dirty Laundry and Five Facebook No-Nos for Divorcing Couples), social networking sites are also contributing to a rise in difficult and costly divorce litigation.

Sites such as Facebook and Twitter, which were originally intended to facilitate networking connections, are quickly becoming forums for publicly airing personal business. Divorcing couples who are in the midst of litigation should be exceedingly cautious regarding the type of information they post to their personal networking pages.

As discussed on law.com (Web Search Serve as Litigation Tool), in any lawsuit, the collection of information on an opposing party is highly important. Photographs, in particular, can have very serious consequences in divorce and child custody litigation. Attorneys on both sides of the litigation can use electronic discovery to yield helpful photographic evidence that may be admitted to reflect on the credibility or lifestyle of a party or witness.