Charlotte Divorce Lawyer Blog

Divorce Financial Tips (1 of 5)

Published on: May 23, 2011 | On behalf of Arnold & Smith, PLLC

As discussed previously in Divorce Financial Tips on Charlotte Divorce Lawyer Blog, there are strategies which can help to avoid the financial disaster which is so common in divorce cases.

The first such strategy which is discussed in the article on Yahoo.com is to make a realistic budget and figure out how your standard of living is going to change as a result of the separation and divorce. While it seems to be common sense that two people cannot live separately as economically as they can live together, North Carolina law says that both spouses have the right to continue to live at the same standard of living to which they became accustomed during the marriage. You may wonder: “how does that work?”

Divorce Financial Tips

Published on: May 19, 2011 | On behalf of Arnold & Smith, PLLC

Charlotte Divorce Lawyer Blog will review five tips from a recent article on Yahoo.com entitled Getting a Divorce? 5 Ways to Ensure It’s Not a Financial Disaster. While mostly common sense, these tips can provide a good start for a discussion with your spouse and your lawyer about how to avoid the financial ruin which can result from a divorce.

Lawyer wants Divorce Settlement Re-Do

Published on: May 16, 2011 | On behalf of Arnold & Smith, PLLC

According to an article on Yahoo.com (Citing Madoff fraud, lawyer wants divorce deal do-over), a prominant real estate lawyer in New York has sued his ex-wife to reopen their divorce settlement. As crazy as this may seem, there is actually a well established legal concept called “mutal mistake” which may allow for the contract to be set aside. The concept of “mutual mistake” allows for a contract to be set aside when there is a mutual mistake as to some important fact or provision. This means that both sides have to have the same misunderstanding.

Sign #7 that Your Honey May Cheat – They Brag About Being Able to Attract Others

Published on: May 12, 2011 | On behalf of Arnold & Smith, PLLC

According to Yahoo.com and Match.com, the seventh sign that your signficant other may cheat is if they routinely brag about their ability to attract others. Cheaters tend to be insecure and make up for it by bragging about their ability to attract others. This makes them feel better about themselves. A person like this is going to need a lot of coddling and ego-stroking, something most people aren’t real thrilled about doing.

Sign #6 that Your Honey May Cheat – They Lie About Little Things

Published on: May 10, 2011 | On behalf of Arnold & Smith, PLLC

According to Yahoo.com and Match.com, the sixth sign that your significant other may cheat is if they are the type to lie about little things. If you are dating someone who cannot tell the truth, even about little things, watch out. These types of character traits can run deep. If the person is willing to lie about little things, chances are good that they are willing to lie about important things too.

Sign #5 That Your Honey May Cheat – They Have Never Been Alone

Published on: May 5, 2011 | On behalf of Arnold & Smith, PLLC

According to Yahoo.com and Match.com, the fifth sign that your significant other may cheat is if they are the type who is always with someone. If they are the type who is never without a mate, this should be a red flag. They typically go from one relationship to another rather than ever being alone for any appreciable period of time. These types do not bother with evaluating why the relationship did not work out. Rather, they focus on filling the void with another significant other as soon as possible. Filling a void is not likely to form the basis of a long lasting relationship.

Sign #4 Your Honey May Cheat – They Admit to Cheating Before

Published on: May 3, 2011 | On behalf of Arnold & Smith, PLLC

According to Match.com and Yahoo.com, the fourth sign that your significant other may cheat is if they admit to having cheated on previous exes but have a rationalization for it. If they have done it before and have found a way to rationalize it, watch out! If they do this, there is a good chance they may do it again. If they do it to you, maybe they will be rationalizing it to their next significant other. This nasty cycle has to end somewhere.

Sign #3 Your Honey May Cheat – They Say they Want “No Strings Attached”

Published on: April 28, 2011 | On behalf of Arnold & Smith, PLLC

According to Match.com and Yahoo.com, the third sign that your significant othe rmay cheat is if they want a “no strings attached” relationship. If they say this, you should beware. This one should be a no-brainer, but don’t fall into the “I can change them” trap. Just take them at their word and let them go “play the field.” Any words like this should be considered a red flag. Never push a person to be in a committed relationship that they do not want to be in. Just accept it for what it is and move on.

Sign #2 Your Honey May Cheat – They are Emotionally Absent

Published on: April 26, 2011 | On behalf of Arnold & Smith, PLLC

According to Match.com and Yahoo.com, the second sign that your significant other may cheat is if they are emotionally absent. If you constantly feel like you have to pry the truth from your partner, this should be a warning sign. A person like this may find it easy to tell you what you want to hear, but find it difficult to deliver on their promises to spend more time together when push comes to shove. The same thing may go for promises to spend more time together, they may promise it and never deliver.

Sign #1 Your Honey May Cheat – They Keep You a Secret

Published on: April 21, 2011 | On behalf of Arnold & Smith, PLLC

According to the article by Match.com and Yahoo.com, the first sign that your significant other may cheat on you is if they keep you a secret from their family and friends. If you feel like you are only meeting some of your significant other’s friend and family, or that they are compartmentalizing you, this may be an indicator of infidelity. Maybe they are looking for someone else or have already found someone else.