Divorce

Divorce Lawyers Monroe, Union County, North Carolina :: The Importance of Discovery in a North Carolina Divorce

Published on: October 18, 2012 | On behalf of Arnold & Smith, PLLC

Many couples facing a divorce wonder why the time and expense associated with discovery is necessary. They figure that they know what the other spouse’s assets are; after all, you watched them buy the stuff in the first place. They think they understand the value of all the retirement and bank accounts because they’ve had conversations about them. Many people believe their spouse would not or could not hide any important information so why go through the trouble at all? The problem is, what you don’t know can hurt you in this instance, which is why the discovery process is so important.

Discovery is the legal process meant to extract information from the opposing party in a lawsuit. Gathering facts early on in litigation may actually help minimize costs in the long run by narrowing the issues that need to be addressed at trial or in settlement negotiations. Discovery involves numerous approaches, including: Interrogatories, Requests for Production of Documents, depositions (both written and oral), physical and mental examinations, Requests for Admission, and others. The most important and most commonly used discovery methods are Interrogatories, Requests for Production of Documents, and Requests for Admissions.

Interrogatories are questions posed to the opposing party. In North Carolina, a party may send up to 50 Interrogatories to the opposing party. The opposing party is required to answer the Interrogatories under oath which is meant to increase the likelihood that the information provided will be truthful. If the party who receives the interrogatories refuses to answer, the court is able to impose sanctions.

Requests for Production of Documents (RPDs) are exactly what they sound like. An attorney makes formal requests for documents in the other party’s possession. If the party refuses to release requested documents that can also lead to sanctions by the court. Unlike interrogatories, there is no limit to the number of requests that can be made.

Admissions are statements presented to the other party. The opposing party is asked to admit or deny the truth of certain matters. Admissions are very powerful and help attorneys narrow down the number of issues that are really in contention between the parties. Another important bit of information about Admissions are that if the other party does not answer a request in a timely manner, the request can be deemed admitted.

Divorce Lawyers Statesville, North Carolina :: The Trouble With Dual Citizenship in North Carolina Divorce

Published on: October 16, 2012 | On behalf of Arnold & Smith, PLLC

What could be worse than divorce? Perhaps the prospect of dueling divorces spread across the globe. Red tape, bureaucracy, money, cultural differences, travel are just some of the many problems faced by Americans facing a divorce in a second country.

While this may seem like a problem that affects only a small group, the fact is many may one day encounter such a predicament. If you’re a dual citizen, you or your spouse has been living abroad, you married a citizen of another country or your spouse fled the country with the kids, you too might have to go through the legal system of another country to obtain a divorce.

Given the increasing interconnectedness of the world, this is a problem that is affecting more and more people. Parental kidnappings make the headlines regularly and more and more parents are willing to fight to get the kids back in the U.S.

If you are facing a possible foreign divorce the first question to content with is where will it be easiest for you to get a divorce? Just because you or your spouse is American, that does not meant that you can file in the U.S., especially if you live abroad. The issue is not where you were born, but where you are currently living that determines which court has jurisdiction.

Though exceptions abound, a good rule of thumb is that divorce is easier to manage in the U.S. and Europe as laws tend to value fairness and equality between the parties. Laws in the Middle East and parts of Africa can be especially hard on women, making it almost impossible for mother’s to gain custody of the kids. Even this conversation about where you will divorce relies on the assumption that you and your spouse agree about where to file. If you don’t, the process becomes a race as whoever files first determines where the divorce will take place.

Divorce Lawyers in Charlotte, North Carolina :: What NOT to do During Your Divorce

Published on: October 9, 2012 | On behalf of Arnold & Smith, PLLC

As discussed in a recent article on PsychologyToday.com, there are several things you should NOT do during your divorce. As many people know, divorcing can be a stressful and exhausting experience. However, there are actions that can and should be taken to make the process easier and there are also things that can be avoided to ensure you don’t make a bad situation even worse.

The following are some of the things (though there are many, many more) that you should avoid doing in the interest of having a more peaceful divorce.

1) Don’t Lie To The Judge: Though this seems to go without saying, always tell the truth. Whether you’re testifying in court or in a deposition, credibility is key. If people start to doubt you then things go end up very badly. Make sure to confide in your attorney if there is a certain subject you want to avoid discussing, but outright lying is never a good plan.

2) Don’t Lie to Your Attorney: Your lawyer can’t help you if they don’t know all the facts. You should be honest with your attorney so they can accurately analyze your case for strengths and weaknesses. All the facts are important and your attorney needs to know everything to help you get the best possible outcome.

3) Don’t Take Legal Advice From Friends and/or Family: It’s important to remember that just because someone gives you advice, it doesn’t mean they are correct. The law varies wildly based on specific circumstances of your case so a friend or family that went through a divorce may have had an entirely different experience than you. Listen to your attorney and ask questions as they arise. It’s wise to avoid talking about specifics of your case with friends and family.

4) Don’t Hide Property: Hiding property to avoid equitable division in a divorce is quite simply a terrible idea. If you do so and it’s discovered then you will lose all credibility in front of the judge and the other side, likely making your situation much, much worse.

Equitable Distribution Lawyers in Charlotte, North Carolina :: What Happens to Small Business Debt in Divorce?

Published on: October 4, 2012 | On behalf of Arnold & Smith, PLLC

If a spouse mixes business with personal life, for instance, by using a personal credit card for business matters, the result will likely be no different than what would happen if it were a personal credit card in a divorce. Despite the fact that the card is tied to business and relate to only one spouse, both spouses may still end up responsible for the payments.

If the debts occurred in order to help a business which created an income for the spouse, they will likely be considered a “marital obligation.” If a judge finds the debt and its amount to be reasonable and if there are no other business assets to offset the amount of the debt, it could very well end up being shared as part of the equitable division process that takes place in every North Carolina divorce.

Divorce Lawyers in Charlotte, North Carolina :: Study Shows Correlation Between Shared Chores and Higher Divorce Rates

Published on: October 2, 2012 | On behalf of Arnold & Smith, PLLC

A recent study out of Norway revealed that divorce rates are higher among couples who equally share the housework than in those where the woman does the bulk of the chores. The bizarre findings indicate that the divorce rate among couples who shared housework equally was around 50% higher than among those where the woman did most of the work.

The author of the study, Thomas Hansen, said that the results show that equal responsibility for housework does not necessary contribute to a happy home. The author responsible said the fact that equality and happiness did not correlate came as a surprise to him. “One would think that break-ups would occur more often in families with less equality at home, but our statistics show the opposite.”

The reasons, though, have little to do with the chores. One possible explanation is the importance of defined roles in the family. These very clear roles help avoid situations where one spouse steps on the other’s toes, giving each an area of control. By not having overlapping household responsibilities, there’s less friction over chores and thus less arguments.

Equitable Distribution Attorneys :: Property Division can be Difficult in North Carolina Divorces

Published on: September 25, 2012 | On behalf of Arnold & Smith, PLLC

When it comes to separating assets, especially emotional ones, reaching an agreement that works for everyone can be tricky. For liquid items, such as bank accounts and retirement accounts, the division can be far less difficult due to a cash value already being attached to them. However, for many North Carolinians, figuring out a fair asset division when it comes to personal property can be far more frustrating.

In many cases, a couple will have acquired some unique items throughout the course of their marriage. These items can be difficult to split unless an agreement is reached. However, if both parties wish to remain in possession of the unique item and find themselves at an impasse, there are several ways in which a division can be achieved.

The easiest of all methods is to force a sale of the item and to split the proceeds. This allows each party to receive a fair share of the value of the item. However, for those who wish to keep the item, a common way to do so would be to offer to buy out the other spouse of their share. If things are extremely contentious, however, and both parties refuse to compromise on who gets the item, a judge may have to step in and determine what should happen.

Top Ways to Lower Your Attorney’s Fees

Published on: September 20, 2012 | On behalf of Arnold & Smith, PLLC

The following five things are some ways that you can try to keep your attorney’s fees low while going through the expensive process of divorce (from WiseGeek.com).

1. Think before you call
While your family law attorney is there to guide you through the process of a divorce and understands that you are going to have questions about the process, it’s important to understand that every communication with your attorney will result in being billed. Thus, it’s a good idea to save your small questions for a weekly status email with your attorney. This does not mean you should avoid communicating important information to your attorney, just think twice before you send off a quick email or make an unnecessary call asking for information that could be found elsewhere or saved for another time.

2. Be active in your own case
Family law cases require the production of lots of document. This can include financial documents, photographs, timelines of events, etc. It’s wise to help out your attorney where possible so he or she does not have to spend time (and money) trying to extract information from you. Provide whatever documents you think may be useful to your case and be quick to get back to them if they have questions.

3. Therapists are cheaper than attorneys
Going through a divorce can be an emotional rollercoaster ride and your attorney certainly understands the pain you are going through. That being said, attorneys are best used as advisors, not as sounding boards for your emotional issues. Good attorneys will be supportive and lend an understanding ear, but you should realize that their time equates to your money. It’s much better to turn to your friends or family to vent about your ex than be billed by your attorney.

4. Respond to requests quickly
There are multiple aspects of your family law case that are time sensitive. If your attorney sends you a document and tells you it needs to be notarized or that discovery requests need to be filled out and that a deadline is important, it’s critical to respond quickly. Your delay can mean that the attorney has to make several attempts to contact you or spend time getting extensions, all of which will end up being billed to you.

Several Strange Marriage Laws From Across the Country

Published on: September 18, 2012 | On behalf of Arnold & Smith, PLLC

With all the talk of alimony and custody fights, sometimes a little lightheartedness is appreciated. After all, you’ve got to laugh to keep from crying. In that spirit, the following list of bizarre marriage-related laws on the books in states across the country is meant to inject some humor into an otherwise serious subject.

First things first, in Kentucky, it’s apparently illegal to remarry the same person four times. Why four and not five? The reason is unclear, but I suppose it makes sense that if you haven’t been able to make it work the three previous times, what’s the point in giving it yet another go. Thankfully, as long as it’s different men, you can get married and divorced as many times as you like.

Wichita, Kansas represents an unlikely haven for those husbands who just can’t stand their mothers-in-law. The city has a law on the books which says that a man’s mistreatment of his mother-in-law cannot serve as a grounds for divorce. Though it can’t be used as a basis for divorce, no one thinks making an enemy of your wife’s mother is a good plan for a happy marriage.

California, Colorado, Montana, and Texas, allow for a very odd practice known as marriage by proxy. Marriage by proxy occurs when someone stands in for a bride or groom who is unable to be present at his or her wedding. The states that allow the practice limit it to members of the U.S. Armed Forces, a group who truly would be unable to attend in certain circumstances. Montana takes it a step farther and is the only place in the country where double-proxy weddings are permitted. This means that neither the bride nor the groom needs to be present for an official wedding to take place, something that would make for an odd reception.

Drug Testing and Nasty Custody Disputes in North Carolina

Published on: September 4, 2012 | On behalf of Arnold & Smith, PLLC

Recently, a family law expert, Henry Gornbein, wrote an editorial for the Huffington Post dealing with the effect of medical marijuana laws on custody disputes. The article concluded with a discussion about how even in states where medical marijuana is legal; a spouse possessing a valid medical marijuana card should still refrain from partaking while in front of their children. Gornbein went so far as to suggest that custody schedules should be altered to take into consideration times where the one parent would be using their medicinal marijuana.

The article is an interesting one in the context of how criminal law has collided with family law. The article also brings up the role of drug testing in North Carolina divorce cases. Drug testing can have a profound impact on some custody cases in the state. Given that North Carolina is a state where all marijuana use is illegal, a positive drug test can be the difference between custodial parenthood and supervised visitation. It’s absolutely the case that no family law court in North Carolina would design a custody schedule around a parent’s marijuana habit.

Parties might request a drug test to provide evidence of habitual drug use in order to attain a fault divorce. One spouse may also request a drug test if there is a heated custody battle and drug use has been alleged. They may be after sole custody of the children and are hoping their ex will fail a drug test. Such failed drug tests can also be a basis for altering a custody agreement.

What to do about life insurance during a North Carolina divorce

Published on: August 30, 2012 | On behalf of Arnold & Smith, PLLC

Negotiating a divorce settlement can be stressful, especially when tension is high and your spouse insists on contesting every last detail. One thing that often is last on people’s priority list, but which should not be overlooked, is insurance.

As the Huffington Post explains, insurance policies are standard parts of Separation and Property Settlement Agreements. The spouse who pays alimony or child support is commonly expected to maintain a life insurance policy that would cover the debt owed to the spouse or children on the receiving end of the money, in case the payer dies while a debt is owed.

If you’re the spouse who is the beneficiary, you must be certain that the policy amount is sufficient to cover your children’s educations, your mortgage and related debt. It’s important to consider sticking in guarantees that forbid a lapse, cancellation or change of beneficiaries to the life insurance policy.

The death benefit on a term policy should meet or exceed the minimum amount a spouse would pay over time for spousal or child support. But more than just that simple calculation, other expenses should also be considered. For instance, is the health insurance under the paying spouse’s name? If so, what would it cost to find a new insurer and pay the premiums? That needs to be calculated into the number needed for the policy’s death benefit.

It’s critical that the details are attended to when it comes to insurance. For instance, while most divorce agreements require that a spouse purchase a life insurance policy, does yours go on to require that they maintain it? Lapsed policies can be canceled, something you surely don’t want to happen if you’re the beneficiary. Experts suggest adding the beneficiary spouse’s name to the policy as a contact that insurers can use if policy premiums ever go unpaid.